The first years of life are decisive for anyone. Even so small, we develop speech, communication, sociability, and so many other skills that will be needed throughout adulthood without realizing that we are actually doing it. It is at this stage that children need to learn to deal with frustrations and take responsibility for their mistakes. But, it doesn´t happen so easily, because they don´t understand that we all go wrong and tend to put the blame on another person or situation. In that case, parents can – and should – give help and, if you don´t know how, we help.
Show causes and effects
The inconsequence is part of the day to day of the children and this only changes with maturity. So, it is important to link the cause and effect of your child’s actions in the most diverse situations. For example, after a bicycle fall, explain that this may have happened because he ran too fast. Good results, such as “you shared the toy and had a lot of fun with that little friend,” should also be pointed out. Thus, the child will begin to create awareness of what happens before and after their actions.
Beware of your reaction
Once they do something wrong and realize this, even if they have not acted on purpose, it is normal for the little ones to try to hide to escape reprimand. For them to learn that they can trust their parents to tell even when they were fooling around, your reaction at the time of discovery can´t frighten the child: Instead, talk and say that you were sad because of the lie. In turn, when the little one looks for you to tell you what happened, praise him for honesty. That way he will feel at ease to be true in every situation in the future.
Do not leave the consequences aside
No matter how much he has confessed, the child knows that by acting wrong he will be punished and this is very important. Even if the punishment is only one day without watching the favorite cartoons, the little ones will learn to respect the rules and become more careful. But beware: do not let this go so your child will not be conditioned to always go wrong. He needs to learn that making some mistakes is normal, but we need to strive to improve.
Reward good behavior
A simple agreement can help your child police more about his own actions. For example, if he goes all week without doing anything bad at school and parents don´t get any complaints from the teacher, he can go to a really fun place with a little friend. So, it will be easier for him to remember the right way to act until he does it right naturally.